Coaching - The Whats, the Whys, and the Whens

"What do I need to change?", "Why should I change?", and "When should I change?".

While these questions are crucial, the more challenging question is "How do I change?". Coaches often do not have a definitive answer to this because each individual's journey and needs are unique. It is not the coach's role to decide on a specific approach for change, as doing so may overlook the individual's unique characteristics and experiences. Instead, coaches should avoid taking control, which can lead to clients relinquishing responsibility for their own decisions and progress. This disempowers clients and undermines their self-efficacy.

‍Then, if you are lucky, you reach the second strata of the behavioural stratosphere, the ‘hows’. The golden chord of coaching, the open-sesame equivalent, Cohen’s chord of David. Suddenly a pathway opens up before you as a coach, we’ve moved into second, a huge, risk-filled, Sisyphean step has been taken towards us.

‍That, I can confidently tell someone receiving coaching, I have absolutely no idea.

‍Definitely not the answer they want. Definitely not the answer they were expecting. Probably the answer they were holding in pocket for when they were asked the same question.