Relationships

Introduction

Everyone who is in a relationship, or cares about their relationships, may experience difficulties at some point. You may need help to:

  • Deal with problems or difficulties in a relationship
  • Learn how to form or improve a relationship
  • Cope with a relationship that has broken down
  • Help to change a relationship where there is violence and abuse

In every relationship there is conflict at times. Being able to handle conflict and deal with differences is important in establishing and maintaining healthy relationships.

People often get very upset and angry when they see that their partner has different values, beliefs or expectations. We all need to understand and accept that between any two people there will be differences in ideas and expectations, sometimes disagreement and strong expressions of feelings.

Our relationships actually become stronger if we talk about these differences. We need to understand these are always going to be part of the relationship and by discussing more they might be able to be resolved.

All couples experience problems in one form or another; it is part of sharing your life with another human being. The difference between relationships that work, and those that don’t, is how well couples deal with the challenges and problems they face in their life together. Seeking advice or extra skills can often help.

Treatments for Relationship Problems

The relationship psychotherapist at the Clinic can work with you to:

  • Help the couple understand the relationship they have
  • Discover why they chose each other in the first place
  • Find out what they wanted from their relationship and from each other
  • Understand how they contributed to whatever their relationship has become
  • Discuss what they feel about each other now
  • Consider what they are prepared to do to make the relationship work

Separation / Divorce

Counselling programmes also help people who are separating or getting divorced to deal with their grief and anger.  It can support couples in recovering from the negative feelings so that they can move on with a new sense of purpose and optimism. This includes looking at:

  • How relationships change
  • Coping with and managing the grief
  • What the real value of anger is
  • Understanding what real acceptance is and what it enables us to get
  • Discovering a pathway for your separation
  • Learning to be “single”
  • Being able to face moving on to a new and sustaining relationship

Counselling and working through the problems of separation with someone who has no involvement or investment in the outcome can help people get through this difficult time.

In reality many people live perfectly happy, fulfilled lives following a relationship breakdown.

Find a clinician for help with relationships

In order to see one of our clinicians, patients first need to obtain a GP referral.

Our Clinicians